Weight Shaming, Is It Acceptable?




This is something that has been bothering me for a while now so I feel no better way to get off my chest how I feel than to share it with you lot.

I have always been slim.. All my life. No matter how much crap I eat including snacks and takeaways, and even working at McDonalds for 5 years, my matabolism just won't let me put on weight. I have jumped on the scales many times after weeks of binging out and nope, not a difference what so ever. This is something I cannot help! I understand peoples concerns when the see a slim girl and it gets the talk going, 'is she ill', 'does she eat properly' bla bla bla. But it gets a bit much when they start to ask you blatantly.. 'Do you seriously eat though?'.

Yep this is something that has just happened to me. Infact in the last month at least three people have commented on my weight situation and I can assure each and every one of you that I am perfectly healthy. This has been going on since school (7 years ago!) where at least two teachers had taken me in on seperate occassions to discuss if I was ok or not. I really cannot stress how annoying it actually is for the fact that I CANNOT HELP IT. I eat like a pig and I know that my parents or my boyfriend would be the first to let me know if they had any concerns about my health or my eating habits. I am 8.5 stone, exactly. Never up nor down but it is a completely healthy weight for a girl of 5'4'' with no boobs and no booty!?

So why are people so critical, and not concerned about the way that they make a passing comment on a persons weight without thinking if it actually would affect said person?

It used to really upset me as I still to this day have no self confidence what so ever and this isn't helped by peoples blunt comments. Now I have started to wonder if it is other peoples own insecurities that cause them to be this way? I would NEVER dream of turning round and saying to someone, 'oh my god you're so fat, you really should eat less!' so why does it then make it okay for someone to turn to me and say, 'oh my god you're so skinny, you should eat more!'. It really is just as insulting. As I was saying before, maybe us skinny girls need to realise that people who are making these comments are insecure about their own bodies and wish that they could be skinnier. Although it is hard, I have learned that these people just have to be ignored as they thrive off of making you feel worse in order to feel better about themselves. 

I would also like to take the time to say though, if you do have any concerns about your weight or eating habits then talk to someone or seek help. There are so many people out there that can help so please do not suffer in silence. The same goes for if you have a concern about someone you know. You have to be extremely careful about the way you bring up a weight situation as you will never really know what is going on in that persons life if anything, so approach these dicussions with caution. 

But no matter your weight, big or skinny, flat or curvy, tall or small, big boobs, big butt or neither YOU ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL. In someones eyes you will be the most beautiful person that they have ever seen and as for those people than have not seen your beauty, maybe someone has yet to see theirs. As long as you area healthy, that really is all that matters.

Please leave a comment telling me how you feel about this topic because I would love to know what you think!

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Wedding Series - Our Engagement

Hi lovelies, now that I am back I thought that I would start with a little update to include what has been happening in my crazy life over the last so many months.

As you will be able to see from the title, WE GOT ENGAGED! This did happen in November but I'm still over the moon and wanted to blog about the engagement and our wedding planning in the run up to the big day (I thought this would be a nice little diary to look back on!). I will be creating my own little 'wedding series' to keep you all up to date with our plans and ideas for the wedding, as I alywas find wedding blogs helpful for tips and a bit of guidance.

So, let me take you back to our engagement...

Back in November my boyfriend of almost 5 years planned to take me out for dinner with our two best friends to the lovely town of Culross in Scotland (which is where we shared our first kiss). We had wanted to go to the Red Lion pub for ages which has amazing reviews, so I really thought nothing of it.  We took a lovely walk along the waterfront to the pub and had a nice meal.. and as we walked back to the car in the dark looking out onto the water he got down on one knee and popped the question! To be honest, I have no idea what he even said other than, 'Will you marry me?' because the shock was too much and I burst out crying. But of course I said yes! And we were lucky enough to have our best friends with us to capture the special and intimate moment. 

It meant so much to me that he'd thought of such a special place that meant so much to us, and he had even taken the time to meet with my parents to ask for my dad approval!




I know the photo makes the place looks kind of creepy from the photo, but honestly it's so special and beautiful at the water with all the lights from across the shore. It couldn't have been any more special as he knows that I don't like a big fuss and all the the attention on me. 

This has been a huge turning point in our relationship, and we cannot be more excited for our future. As I said, this happened back in November and we have managed to get a lot planned since then which is super crazy and exciting. So if you'd like to hear more about what we have planned then please let me know in the comment box below!


Mrs Cooper to be...
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The Mask of Makeup

It is no secret that girls in this day and age feel as though they cannot bare it all and need to hide behind layers of makeup in order to feel beautiful and be noticed. It is sad that society has caused us women to fear baring it all and can't even nip out for petrol or to the shops without that last minute touch up of mascara, application of lip gloss and a quick check that each strand of our hair is perfectly in place.

Due to the media and the internet, I think that men tend to have unreal expectations of women and what they define as 'attractive'. NOT ALL MEN (before you all attack me) but I would say the majority of them. It is a rare find when you come across that one special guy that you can spend time with when your hair is scraped back, the face is naked, the legs are unshaven and you are in your favourite joggers and baggy top and feel utterly at peace. For me, I have found that guy. I am lucky that even when I have been at my worse, he still tells me I am beautiful and there is nothing that warms my heart more than knowing I feel relaxed around him no matter how I look or feel.

The point that I am trying to make in the post is that no matter how you feel, even when you have that odd day that you cannot be bothered styling your hair or putting on that faithful mask of makeup that there will be people out there who find you beautiful as you are. Au natural. Girls should never feel that they have to cover up to impress in order to 'get the guy' they want, as when they do, he will see you looking your roughest at some point girlies! Even if you do get up first thing in the morning to apply some lippy and fix the hair (you know like that first scene in Bridesmaids)!

Of course we all have our daily make up routines, but as I begin this beauty blog I want it to be known that you must feel beautiful without your makeup before you can feel beautiful in your makeup, and that everyone of us should learn to embrace our impefections as they are what define us and make us who we are! And after all..

"A smile is the most attractive thing a girl can wear"

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2017 Resolutions & Word of the Year


Hi lovelies and welcome back to my blog. I hope that you all had a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year!
What better way to start off the New Year by creating a list of of my resolutions for 2017..

1. Grow my Blog - I say this all the time but now that I have no other commitments I really want to get stuck into my blog this year. Blogging is something that I have always enjoyed and now I  actually have the time to be able to do it.
2. Have a Healthier Lifestyle - I am certainly not one for dieting as I believe that you should be able to eat what you want but in moderation. This year I want to focus on eating better, drinking more water and getting regular exercise to improve my lifestyle.

3. Make Time for Date Night - I often feel that with different work patterns it is hard to make time for you and your partner to spend some quality time together. This year I want to make sure that we make time to have a date night, maybe even just twice a month, so that we can get out and enjoy each others time rather than being stuck in the flat glued to our phones.

4. Keep a Diary - One thing that I would like to do this year is to keep a diary. I think by the end of the year it will be nice to have something to look back on to see things that I had achieved/ felt/ got up to this year.

5. Have More Me Time - This year I really want to focus on being happy with my own company. I think that this is so important in order to feel confident and content with who you are, so this year I want to take sometime to take a break and distress. Looking forward to a good few pamper nights throughout the year!

6. Be More Consistent - I'd like to post more frequently on my social media platforms in order to grow my followers. One thing that I'd like to do more this year is post more consistently when I can.

Word of the Year

After reading loads of people's new years resolutions for this year I decided to jump on the band wagon with my very own word/ theme of the year. Given that last year was extremely stressful and anxious time for me I thought that there would be no better theme for my 2017 than relax.

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